We’re all familiar with the phrase “the grass is always greener on the other side” and we all know exactly what it means because it’s human nature to feel that way sometimes. We want it all. But that’s just not possible. As far as relationships go, you can’t be single and have the benefits of being in a relationship too; and in a couple, you can’t reap the benefits of single life. You’re never going to have it all, so the best you can do is enjoy where you’re at in life in this very moment, whichever yard you happen to be in. A lot of times, I’m not so great at this. But these last few weeks, something’s changed. I don’t know if it was the date from Hell that made me come to this realization, or something else. Quite honestly, I don’t really care but I am extremely grateful for it; I’ve been branching out, meeting new people, going to new places, reconnecting with old friends and just having fun. It’s so easy to live in a bubble, because change is never easy, but I think that’s because there’s never a guarantee that the change will be good. But sometimes you just have to take that leap of faith, because the change could be something really amazing, and who wants to miss out on that?
Part of this is separating myself a little bit from my normal group. I love my couples. For the most part, I never feel like the third or fifth or even seventh wheel, but every once in a while I do. And it’s made me realize, that I need to expand my horizons. It’s hard at twenty-five to change things up and start hanging out with other people besides your core group. But I have been and I’ve made some really great connections because of it.
This past week, I met up with two friends from high school. I don’t think I’ve seen them since the day we walked across the stage in 2004, so we had plenty to catch up on. I live in West Palm, he lives in Boca, and she lives in Miami. We met in the middle at his bar, The Whistle Stop (a great place if you’re ever in Boca, by the way). We caught each other up on our lives, but eventually starting talking about relationships. It was pretty awesome being around two other people who are in the exact same place in their lives as I am in mine. Being single at twenty-five is not a death sentence. I’ve always known this, but when you hang out with so many people who are married or seriously committed to someone (and somewhat older), there is this weird feeling (albeit small) of pressure and urgency to find someone…I guess to fit in. It shouldn’t be that way though. And after talking to them about all the amazing things we’ve been doing, it hit me: I am having so much fun right now. It wasn’t too long ago I was moping about one boy or another. Why should I want to jump right back into that? I shouldn’t, and I don’t. Of course, this will all change. I’ll meet someone, whether right or wrong for me, and I’ll abandon the single life. But while I’m here, I’m gonna soak it up a bit. The three of us are planning to meet up in Miami one weekend, I’ll continue to go out every Friday night, sometimes with new friends, sometimes with old, and I’ll take every moment as it comes.
The saying about the grass is really all about perception, because the grass I’m standing on right now is plenty green, and for now, I have no desire to jump the fence.
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